Good Grief?

I am a widow and this post explains a lot. Maybe this will help my friends understand me better.

Widows Don't Wear Black

I was told by a doctor in the days following Col’s death that I would  never get over the loss of him from my life. I didn’t understand that what that kind doctor meant was that my grief will always be with me but it would not always be as sore and raw as it was in those first hours and days. I wanted to fix myself and my life and sticky plaster it all back together so it could be what it once was. I didn’t want to hear that life would always have this pain of grief in it. The doctor was right and I was wrong. Life after loss is like waking up in an altered reality. Everything looks the same but you feel the whole world differently. People sound different. And you feel indifferent to much of what is said and happening around you because much…

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A Busy Week….Summer Fun

Last weekend was the famous Whiting, Indiana Pierogi Fest. It is a time when hundreds of thousands of people come to my city for food and fun. The Fest runs Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Friday night is the crazy Pierogi Fest polka parade. Only entries that are over the top and crazy are allowed. We have Mr. Pierogi and the pierogiettes as well as the babuska brigade and the precision lawnmower drill team. There is a site on Facebook if you look up Pierogi Fest 2013 that has some incredible pictures of what I am talking about.

Friday night I went to the parade with my kids. Even though they are over 20 they loved the parade for the silliness factor alone. We then went to the actual Fest. My daughter fell in love with deep-fried alligator nuggets. My boy had to try a bunch of Pierogi of course, he only like the meat filled variety. I had some noodles and cabbage just like grandma used to make. My daughter bought a yard of chocolate covered strawberries and was in heaven. The lemonade shake-ups were perfect. I bought a steak sandwich with grilled onions and cheese and ate it for breakfast on Saturday! Anything goes Pierogi Fest weekend.

I went back to the fest with my daughter Saturday and met my sister-in-law. We once again pigged out on good food. Saturday night we had alligator nuggets, potato pancakes, noodles and cabbage, steak sandwiches, a hot fudge sundae (my daughter), a foot long bacon wrapped hot dog with cheese, and of course more pierogi! Don’t worry we did not eat all the food there, we took some home.

Sunday I went back with the kids to stock up on the goodies. We ended up with steak sandwiches, pulled pork sandwiches, shish-ka-bobs, cabbage and noodles, potato pancakes, another foot long deep-fried bacon wrapped hot dog with cheese, an apple dumpling with ice cream and of course more pierogi. There was over 75 food vendors and when you think that Taste of Chicago doesn’t even have 40 it is saying something. There are also arts and craft vendors. I bought four Pierogi Fest t-shirts. My boy got a budda shaped candle and a super hero mask. I also bought the kids a flaming rock to go in their new apartment.

Tuesday was my birthday and after work I went out to eat with my mom and kids. We went to a buffet because my kids are picky eaters. They found tons of food they liked and I think we all overate. Now coming up Saturday, I am taking the kids to the county fair for more food. The kids are moving away in 8 days and I will definitely have to be dieting and exercising to work off all this food. They still haven’t started packing yet, so this should be an interesting next few days. I hope everyone is enjoying the summer as much as I am.